I would add a time frame for Charlie's suggested "right of first refusal" language. It makes no sense to be required to offer such time for very short periods of time - too much disruption for children. If Dad has to run out for 2 hours for a work commitment or to go to the store - it seems silly to have to offer Mom time to have the kids for the short a time frame. Overnights, full days, etc. - yes. But the children's schedules and lives need to be considered as well - if the PAR lives in another town miles away - and the kids would be disrupted from after school activities or have to get up before dawn to get to school, then I believe that respect for the children's lives with the PPR is primary concern.
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Debra Guston Esq.
Glen Rock NJ
(201)447-6660
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Original Message:
Sent: 04-04-2017 09:06
From: Charles Abut
Subject: Parenting time with girlfriend
Propose the following language. If refused, make a motion for this relief:
- During any period of time when either parent is considering the use of a substititute, alternate or surrogate child caretaker for [child] (such as a babysitter, nanny or other third-party), the other parent will be given the first option and opportunity to care for her/him instead.
2. Except in the event of a medical emergency, 7 days prior notice shall be given of such alternative arrangement.
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Charles Abut Esq.
Hackensack NJ
(201)342-0404
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Original Message:
Sent: 04-04-2017 07:26
From: Eric Hannum
Subject: Parenting time with girlfriend
Hello list mates,
Does anyone know of any cases that speak to impermissibility of parents having their girlfriend/boyfriend watch their children while they go to work? Hoping to find a case on point but haven't been successful. It has always been my understanding that parenting time is just that – parenting time.
Briefly, my client’s ex wants to change his current one overnight per week parenting time schedule to three overnights per week because his current girlfriend is willing to watch the kids while he goes to work as a bartender. His work schedule has him at the bar from mid-afternoons until closing (1:30 a.m.). His Certification claims that he changed his work schedule to have more time with his children but my client has first-hand knowledge that the only change is the girlfriend who is willing to watch the children so dad can work. I assume that he could argue that this is “work related daycare” but I believe that to be a bit of a stretch.
Thanks in advance and any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Best,
Eric
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Eric B. Hannum Esq.
Summit Corporate Center
2329 Rout 34, Ste.301
Manasquan NJ 08736
(732) 370-9596
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