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  • 1.  Hunterdon - parenting time with infants

    Posted 03-21-2017 04:59 PM
    I know different judges / counties have different "standard decisions" on this. Child is two months old. Dad has been seeing the child every day (6 days per week) for several hours, but not overnights. He lives about five minutes away, has a crib and all the necessary equipment. Has taken baby care courses at hospital.

    We're trying to resolve the issues with a presumptive time to start overnights, but if we can't - not sure what to ask for / what's reasonable (don't want to get client's hopes up, but don't want to ask for less than he'd get).

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  • 2.  RE: Hunterdon - parenting time with infants

    Posted 03-21-2017 05:14 PM
    Hi.  I would say that with a child that young, the frequency of the visits is more important in order to establish a relationship with the child than whether or not he has overnights at this time.  However, I agree, that a date should be agreed upon when the overnights should start or when the issue of overnights should be reevaluated.

    Debra F. Schneider Esq.

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  • 3.  RE: Hunterdon - parenting time with infants

    Posted 03-21-2017 05:41 PM

    I agree with Debra on this.  In my view overnights do nothing but stress out infants and toddlers and do little to build a bonded relationship with a non-custodial parent.  Almost all of the literature I have read and advice I have heard from psychologists is indeed that frequency of contact is more important.  I would hate to be the parent who stresses out a young child so much by changing their sense of safety and place that they end up hating going with me.  I also find that, as in a case we have now, that the father is pushing for the mother to change her nursing schedule and pump more often to accommodate his desire for time alone with the child out of the baby's primary residence. This is bordering on domestic violence in my view in his attempts to intimidate the mom in order to suit his own sense of being a super-dad.


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    American Academy of Assisted Reproductive Technology Attorneys

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