Sounds like we have the same current adversary. There's probably an after hours fax in our tray from Friday an a new piece of "evidence" for the judge even as I write this.
Not sure what you're talking about when referring to "intake documents." For school?
You won't get a recusal.
R. 1:7-3 lets you put objectionable evidence on the record, including bench trials, so there is an underlying assumption (that Learned Hand, for instance, did not agree with) that the trier will ably disregard such proffers. The same applies to your situation.
As to ethics, that would be wonderful, as many ethics pundits would argue that any purposeful violation of the Rules of Court equals an ethical breach.
R. 1:6-6 is a glowing example of an area that is desecrated regularly.
Now... you're heading for a return date, not a hearing, correct?
In a similar situation I had recently, I was a cross-movant facing inappropriate inclusions of confidential information, violating the marriage counselors privilege (the most durable of all privileges, oddly enough. As soon as I entered my appearance, I asked to be heard on a kind of
ad hoc in limine motion, which request was granted. Following my argument and before the written applications were heard, the judge struck the objectionable content.
If it's just the return date, I wouldn't think anything would be dispositive without a hearing as to issues in dispute. Also, you don't just get to say "803(c)(6), so it gets in," without establishing the necessary foundation. Since it's not either party's "business record," someone whose business record it is needs to satisfy the foundational requirements. I see this neglected all the time by slumbering attorneys.
Hope this helps, my dear friend.
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